People who are hurt by someone they trust and love are usually the ones who carry more pain, sadness and anger within themselves. They allow negative feelings to swallow them up and chose to dwell on the bitterness of the situation. Holding grudges can also negatively affect every relationship that you will be in. The relationship could be filled with fights, conflicts or issues that are not really connected with the current situation, but because of what has happened in the past.
These pains and negative feelings will affect you mentally, physically, and emotionally. These will also affect the condition of how you live your life daily with all the different people around you. The grudge may start in a very little or simple way, but eventually, if you won’t let go of it, this grudge can ruin your life and robs off your joy, positivity, and the chance of having a healthy relationship with other people. You become so wrapped up with the hurtful happenings in the past that you can no longer enjoy the present. You become so anxious and depressed of so many things, and possibly, lose your self-value and weaken your positive connectedness with others.
If these little hurts and negative feelings were left unchecked and unsettled, they can leave you to a state of bitterness. The possibility of having positive results to some aspects of your life could turn into negativities because of the condition of the emotions and mentality inside you.
Holding and keeping grudges means you prefer to live your life in pain and regret. If you kept on doing this, you will lose your self-worth and will have a wrong image of yourself. At some point, if people are in pain, they will have a hard time trusting others, trusting themselves, and sometimes, trusting God.
Giving yourself a chance to be freed from all the pain and anger would bring healing even to your self-image and would turn your heart into a forgiving and tender one.
You will be the one who will suffer more if you chose to hold on to the grudge and anger. You imprisoned yourself with all the bitterness, anger, hurt and resentment. Maybe, there are some people who can forgive easily or are naturally forgiving than others. But even to the grudge-holder, forgiveness can still be something that any person can give.
In reality, you also have hurt others but they have forgiven you. You are forgiven to forgive, and it starts by letting go of the person who has hurt you the most. Forgiveness is not for them, it is for you. You suffer more when you choose not to forgive. But if you take a step in doing the latter, you are actually giving yourself a chance to be freed from anger, bitterness, hurt and resentment. Remember that who you are is affected by the condition of your heart, but if you allow forgiveness to overpower, you will discover that you have set a prisoner free: yourself.